Couples & Relationships
Gottman, EFT, repair, attachment.
8 tools15 worksheets
Interactive tools
Use live in a session or send to a client.
- Attachment Needs ReflectionEFT — what each partner needs, in plain language
- Conflict AftermathGottman aftermath conversation — sent to each partner
- Emotion Regulation Thermometer5-zone visual thermometer — body cues, warning signs, skill per zone
- Four Horsemen Self-AssessmentGottman criticism · contempt · defensiveness · stonewalling
- Negative Cycle TrackerEFT pursue–withdraw map — sent to each partner
- Primary Emotion TrackerEFT — under the surface feeling, between sessions
- Relationship Check-InFive quick ratings — sent to each partner
- Repair Attempts PracticeGottman repairs — sent to each partner
Printable worksheets
PDFs and fillable handouts.
- Assertive CommunicationPassive · aggressive · assertive — and the actual words
- Attachment Styles WorksheetRead your pattern under stress — and one earned-security practice
- Bids for ConnectionGottman — the tiny moments that build (or erode) a relationship
- Boundaries — A Plain GuideWhat boundaries are, what they aren't, and the six kinds
- Boundaries WorksheetName the cost, hold the limit, write the script
- Boundary BuilderDraft the actual sentence you'll say out loud
- Codependency WorksheetSpot the pattern, name the fear, take one step back
- Communication Skills WorksheetI-statements, listening, and a real script
- Conflict Resolution WorksheetFrom positions to needs to options both sides can hold
- Fair Fighting RulesTen ground rules to make a hard conversation survivable
- Four Horsemen & AntidotesGottman — the four predictors of relationship breakdown, and the way back
- Gottman Repair ChecklistThe phrases that keep a fight from becoming the fight
- I-StatementsI feel ___ when ___ because ___ — drafted, not improvised
- Repair AttemptsGottman — small phrases to de-escalate mid-conflict
- Soft Startup ScriptsGottman's gentle opening — drafted, not improvised