Couples & Relationships
Gottman, EFT, repair, attachment.
11 tools56 worksheets
Interactive tools
Use live in a session or send to a client.
- Anger IcebergThe reactive tip and the emotions underneath
- Assertive Communication TrainerSame moment written 4 ways · I-statement builder
- Attachment Needs ReflectionEFT — what each partner needs, in plain language
- Conflict AftermathGottman aftermath conversation — sent to each partner
- Emotion Regulation Thermometer5-zone visual thermometer — body cues, warning signs, skill per zone
- Fair Fighting Rules8-rule checklist for live conflict or right after
- Four Horsemen Self-AssessmentGottman criticism · contempt · defensiveness · stonewalling
- Negative Cycle TrackerEFT pursue–withdraw map — sent to each partner
- Primary Emotion TrackerEFT — under the surface feeling, between sessions
- Relationship Check-InFive quick ratings — sent to each partner
- Repair Attempts PracticeGottman repairs — sent to each partner
Printable worksheets
PDFs and fillable handouts.
- 'No' Scripts for People-PleasersShort, warm, complete sentences
- Aftermath of a FightGottman's 5-part debrief for after a fight has cooled
- Apology AnatomyWhy an apology doesn't land
- Assertive CommunicationPassive · aggressive · assertive — and the actual words
- Attachment Injury RepairSome ruptures are more than fights — they broke the assumption you'd be there
- Attachment Style Under Stress ReflectionNot a diagnosis — a learned strategy for handling closeness
- Attachment Styles WorksheetRead your pattern under stress — and one earned-security practice
- Bids for ConnectionGottman — the tiny moments that build (or erode) a relationship
- Boundaries — A Plain GuideWhat boundaries are, what they aren't, and the six kinds
- Boundaries at WorkCareer vs burnout
- Boundaries WorksheetName the cost, hold the limit, write the script
- Boundary BuilderDraft the actual sentence you'll say out loud
- Boundary Guilt HangoverRide the guilt without undoing
- Boundary Script Builder — 6 ScenariosRead them out loud — the words that feel impossible become normal by the third use
- Boundary Scripts CheatsheetRehearse before you need them
- Co-Parenting Working AgreementNot a court document — the operational agreement that protects the kids from the middle
- Codependency WorksheetSpot the pattern, name the fear, take one step back
- Communication Skills WorksheetI-statements, listening, and a real script
- Communication Styles WorksheetPassive · aggressive · passive-aggressive · assertive — where does each show up?
- Conflict Resolution WorksheetFrom positions to needs to options both sides can hold
- Digital Boundaries2020s emotional hygiene
- Dreams Within ConflictThe dream underneath each gridlocked position
- Dreams Within Conflict69% of fights are perpetual
- EFT Negative Cycle MapPursue-withdraw, attack-attack — name the cycle, externalize the enemy
- Emotional Needs WorksheetLegitimate, universal, specific — name them, don't earn them
- Fair Fighting RulesTen ground rules to make a hard conversation survivable
- Forgiveness as a DecisionNot a feeling that arrives
- Forgiveness DecisionFour options after rupture
- Four Horsemen & AntidotesGottman — the four predictors of relationship breakdown, and the way back
- GenogramThree generations of family on a single page
- Gottman Four Horsemen WorksheetCriticism · Contempt · Defensiveness · Stonewalling — with each antidote
- Gottman Repair ChecklistThe phrases that keep a fight from becoming the fight
- I-StatementsI feel ___ when ___ because ___ — drafted, not improvised
- In-Laws & Extended Family BoundariesEach partner leads on their own family of origin
- Infidelity Recovery WorksheetStructure the first phase after disclosure so the couple can keep talking
- Long-Distance Relationship PlanDistance is survivable — ambiguity is not
- Love Languages WorksheetThe five currencies of care — yours, theirs, and where they don't overlap
- Love Maps QuestionnaireThe internal map you hold of your partner's inner world — update it
- Mental Load & Chores EquityNotice, Decide, Do, Remember — the invisible labor split
- Money Conversation WorksheetMoney is a values problem, not a math problem
- Nonmonogamy Check-InRegular check-in for open, poly, and non-monogamous couples
- Parenting Team PlanScreen time, discipline, food, bedtime — aligned and where to differ
- Physical Affection MenuNon-sexual touch, decoupled from initiation
- Postpartum CouplesThe predictable satisfaction drop — named so it stops being attributed to each other
- Recovery Couple PlanOne (or both) partners in recovery — the relationship map
- Recurring Conflict BlueprintSame conflict, different content
- Repair AttemptsGottman — small phrases to de-escalate mid-conflict
- Rituals of ConnectionSmall daily rituals that add up to hours of connection a week
- Sexual Desire DiscrepancyHigher-desire and lower-desire — mapping the pursue-withdraw cycle
- Sexual Intimacy Check-InQuarterly (or monthly) — because usually one partner knows for months first
- Should I Stay or Go? Decision WorksheetAmbivalence is data, not weakness — but the question needs movement
- Soft Startup ScriptsGottman's gentle opening — drafted, not improvised
- Stress-Reducing Conversation20 minutes, daily
- Triangulation MapBowen triangles in your system
- Weekly State of the UnionA 30-minute weekly meeting — appreciations, admin, feelings, dreams
- Weekly State of Us20 min. Four questions. In order.