Relationships · Gottman
Weekly State of the Union
A 30-minute weekly meeting — appreciations, admin, feelings, dreams
A 30-minute weekly meeting. Same day, same time, phones down. Runs in this order — appreciations first, admin second, feelings third, dreams fourth. Skipping it is the beginning of most drift.
Agenda
1. Appreciations — 3 specific each
2. Household / logistics
3. Anything from the week that stung — soft startup
4. Dreams / decisions coming
5. One request each for the week ahead
Ritualize the hard conversations
If you don't have a scheduled place for the sting, it will find you at 11 p.m. in the kitchen. Put it on the calendar.