Relationships · Gottman
Rituals of Connection
Small daily rituals that add up to hours of connection a week
Gottman's research: masters of relationships had small daily rituals that added up to hours of connection a week. Build yours on purpose — because life will eat them if you don't.
Design your rituals
Ritual
When
How long
Non-negotiable?
Examples: 6-second kiss, 20-min reunion talk, phone-free dinner, weekly walk, Sunday planning, monthly date, annual retreat.
Which ritual gets protected first when life is hectic
Small and reliable beats big and rare
A 6-second kiss every day matters more than an annual vacation. Reliability is the medicine.