Relationships · Recovery
Recovery Couple Plan
One (or both) partners in recovery — the relationship map
One (or both) partners in active recovery. The relationship has to be recovery-first without becoming recovery-only. This page maps the agreements.
Meetings / therapy / sponsor time — protected
How we handle a slip (both know the plan in advance)
What partner-in-recovery needs from partner-in-support
What partner-in-support needs (their own support: Al-Anon, therapy)
Never-agreements
- Partner does not police / drug-test / monitor
- Partner-in-recovery is honest, not managed
- We don't fight during craving spikes
- Both have outside support
Recovery first, together second
A relationship that requires either partner to skip their recovery to preserve it is a relationship on a timer. Protect the recovery and the relationship gets to live.