Relationships · Intimacy
Sexual Intimacy Check-In
Quarterly (or monthly) — because usually one partner knows for months first
A quarterly (or monthly) check-in about the sexual and physical part of the relationship. Removes the assumption that "if there's a problem I'd know" — because usually one person knows for months before the other does.
Each answer separately, then compare
- How satisfied am I sexually right now, 0–10
- How often would I like sex — realistically
- What's the best sex we've had recently (why)
- What am I not saying about our sex life
- One thing I'd like to try
- One thing I'd like to retire
Where our numbers were furthest apart
What we commit to for the next 90 days
The conversation IS the intimacy
Couples who can talk plainly about sex have better sex. Practice the talking part on purpose — it's the practice.