Relationships · Intimacy
Physical Affection Menu
Non-sexual touch, decoupled from initiation
Non-sexual touch is often the first casualty of a strained relationship — and rebuilding it usually has to come before sex does. This menu decouples affection from initiation.
Rate each 0 (don't want) → 5 (love this)
- Long hug on arrival home
- Hand-hold walking
- Head on shoulder / lap
- Hair stroking
- Foot rub
- Back scratch
- Being held at night
- Kiss on the forehead
- Sitting close on the couch
- 6-second kiss goodbye
Times I actively don't want touch (need to know I can say no without it meaning rejection)
A daily minimum we're both committing to
Touch is a language, not a bid
If every touch is read as sexual initiation, one person stops touching. Rebuild the vocabulary of non-sexual affection first.