Relationships · EFT
Attachment Injury Repair
Some ruptures are more than fights — they broke the assumption you'd be there
Some ruptures are more than fights — they broke the assumption that you'd be there. An affair, a hospitalization when they didn't show, a crisis they minimized. These require a specific repair, not just an apology.
The injury (what happened, factually)
What it meant to me about us
What I needed from you then that I didn't get
What I need from you now to feel safe again
Partner's role
- Fully acknowledge the injury (not 'if you felt hurt')
- Ownership without defense or explanation first
- Concrete change — not just words
- Willingness to be asked about it again, later, without irritation
Repair before trust
You cannot skip to trust. Repair the injury first — trust returns as a byproduct, over months, not sentences.