Relationships · Forgiveness
Forgiveness as a Decision
Not a feeling that arrives
Forgiveness is a decision made once and rebuilt many times — not a feeling that arrives. Distinguish it from reconciliation and pardoning first.
What happened — the specific injury
What I'd be forgiving (behavior) vs excusing (harm)
What forgiveness would cost me — and what carrying it costs me
Whether reconciliation is on the table or not (they're separate)
A one-sentence decision I can return to when the feeling wobbles