Relationships · Gottman
Stress-Reducing Conversation
20 minutes, daily
Gottman's stress-reducing conversation is a 20-minute daily ritual: talk about stress outside the relationship, not inside it. Both sides get a turn.
Timing we'll try (same time daily, phones away)
Speaker rules — one topic, no problem-solving asked for
Listener rules — understanding, not fixing; validation, not advice
How we signal when we want advice vs empathy only
What we'll try for one week and review