Codependency worksheets that name the pattern without shaming it.
Pattern checklists, detach-with-love scripts, boundary builders, and recovery-oriented reflection for adult children of alcoholics, partners of someone in active addiction, over-functioners, and caretakers who lost themselves in the role.
Boundary Builder
Draft the actual sentence you'll say out loud
Identify the limit, the person, the why, and the exact words. Three drafts per page so the final version is rehearsed, not improvised.
Assertive Communication
Passive · aggressive · assertive — and the actual words
Compare the three styles in your own recent moments, then draft the assertive version out loud. The point isn't being nicer — it's being clear without bracing for war.
I-Statements
I feel ___ when ___ because ___ — drafted, not improvised
The classic non-blaming frame, with side-by-side you-statement vs. I-statement examples and three drafts of the one the client actually has to say this week.
Boundaries — A Plain Guide
What boundaries are, what they aren't, and the six kinds
Physical, emotional, time, material, intellectual, sexual — defined, with one recognizable example and one common violation each. Psychoeducation before the Boundary Builder.
Boundaries Worksheet
Name the cost, hold the limit, write the script
A plain-language boundaries worksheet. Names what the situation is costing, the limit you want to hold, what you'll do if it's crossed, and a script in your own words — plus pushback and how you'll stay steady.
Codependency Worksheet
Spot the pattern, name the fear, take one step back
An eight-item codependency checklist plus reflection: where it shows up most, what you fear will happen if you stop over-functioning, one thing to stop doing for them and one to do for yourself instead.
Codependency Recovery — Beattie's Six Patterns
Caretaking, control, low self-worth, weak boundaries, denial, dependency
Built on Melody Beattie's framework. Self-rate the six codependent patterns 0–10, name what each looks like now, list what you gave up to manage the relationship, and identify one recovery-of-self experiment that's not measurable by whether they noticed.
Boundaries with an Addicted Loved One
What I will do — and whether I'll actually keep it
A 6-row boundary worksheet specifically for the addiction context: situation, what you'll no longer do or accept, your consequence, and an honest willingness check. Includes warm scripts, a prediction of how they'll respond, and how you'll hold the line anyway.
Boundaries with Using Friends
Sort friendships by risk and draft the actual language for each
Categorizes current friendships (high / medium / low risk), decides desired contact (none / limited / normal), and drafts scripts for each — including the ones you're distancing from.
In-Laws & Extended Family Boundaries
Each partner leads on their own family of origin
Turns the 'lead on your own family' principle into specific agreements: consulting before visits, holiday planning, no side-communication with in-laws about the marriage. Includes script for the next hard conversation.
Family Boundaries Worksheet
The membrane between enmeshment and cutoff
Audit boundaries with each family member and set one specific, behavioral limit this month.
Boundary Scripts Cheatsheet
Rehearse before you need them
Five common scenarios with word-for-word scripts — decline, end a call, decline a favor, name off-topics, leave early.
Boundary Guilt Hangover
Ride the guilt without undoing
What the guilt says, whose voice it borrows, what's actually true, and how the guilt fades hour by hour.
Detach with Love
Al-Anon, on one page
What's theirs, what's mine, behaviors to stop (rescuing, monitoring) and keep (loving, honest, boundaried).
Boundary Script Builder — 6 Scenarios
Read them out loud — the words that feel impossible become normal by the third use
Six pre-written boundary scripts (declining, ending a call, unwanted advice, intrusive family questions, being interrupted, keeping a secret) with a 'my version' fill-in for each. Plus one to practice this week.
Codependency isn't a character defect — it's an adaptation
Most clients who land in a codependency framework learned early that other people's regulation was their job. The worksheet set here doesn't pathologize that — it names the pattern, tracks the cost, and rehearses the specific move that breaks the loop: naming the fear underneath the over-functioning, choosing one thing to stop doing for someone else, and one thing to do for themselves instead.
Draws on Melody Beattie's classical framing, Al-Anon's detach-with-love language, IFS parts work for the Caretaker/Protector, and CBT-flavored boundary scripts that survive real conversations.
A typical sequence
Start with the Codependency Worksheet as psychoeducation and self-recognition (eight-item checklist plus the fear underneath). Move to Detach With Love for the day-to-day practice. Add the Boundaries Psychoeducation and Boundary Builder to give language and scaffolding. For partners and adult children of someone in active addiction, layer in Boundaries With an Addicted Loved One. For scripting the actual conversation, use the Boundary Script Builder, Scripts Cheatsheet, and I-Statements / Assertive Communication.
Family and in-law dynamics get their own scaffolding: Family Boundaries and In-Laws Boundaries. The Guilt Hangover worksheet is for the 48 hours after — when the pull to reverse a boundary is strongest.
Free to print and send
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