Family · Boundaries
Family Boundaries Worksheet
The membrane between enmeshment and cutoff
Boundaries in family systems aren't walls — they're the membrane that lets the right things in and keeps the wrong things out. Enmeshment (too permeable) and cutoff (too rigid) both cost you. This sheet finds the middle.
Where boundaries currently sit
Family member (initials)
Enmeshed / clear / cutoff
Cost
Areas to reset
- How often we talk / text
- What I share about my life, marriage, kids, money
- Visits — length, frequency, who stays where
- Holidays and expectations
- Requests for money, favors, caretaking
- Being pulled into others' conflicts (triangulation)
- Comments about my body, choices, parenting
One boundary I'm setting this month — the exact words I'll use
How I expect them to push back — and my plan for holding
Boundaries are for you, not for them
A boundary is what YOU will do, not what you demand they do. 'If X happens, I will Y' — clean, not punitive.