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Attachment Styles Chart

Four patterns across five dimensions, on one page

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A one-page reference chart of the four adult attachment patterns across five dimensions. Use it for psychoeducation; use the reflection lines below it for the client's own read.

Secure
View of others
Others are mostly available; I am worth responding to
Under stress
Reaches out, then settles
In conflict
Stays and repairs
What helps
Consistency
Anxious / preoccupied
View of others
Others may leave; I must work to be kept
Under stress
Escalates to restore contact
In conflict
Pursues, protests, cannot let it rest
What helps
Reliable reassurance and direct asking
Dismissing / avoidant
View of others
Others will disappoint; I rely on myself
Under stress
Deactivates and handles it alone
In conflict
Shuts down, exits, rationalises
What helps
Space with a promise to return
Fearful avoidant
View of others
I need people and people are dangerous
Under stress
Alternates between both strategies
In conflict
Reaches then retreats, sometimes freezes
What helps
Predictability and slow pacing
The row that fits me most of the time
The row I move into under real stress
One thing from the 'what helps' column I could ask for
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Guide for clinicians: Attachment Styles Chart

When to use it

Use it for psychoeducation when a client keeps describing the same relationship pattern — chasing reassurance, shutting down, or swinging between both — and is curious where it comes from. It works in individual and couples therapy, best as a conversation starter rather than a label, because most people recognise more than one row. Present it as a description of strategies under stress, not a fixed personality type, and avoid using it to diagnose a partner who isn't in the room.

How to introduce it to a client

"Attachment researchers describe a few common ways people handle closeness and distance, especially under stress. Read across each row and notice which feels like you most of the time, and which you slip into when things get really hard — they're often different. Then look at the 'what helps' column and pick one thing you could ask for."

Example

Illustrative example · fictional client "R.T."
Row that fits most of the time
Secure — reach out, then settle
Row under real stress
Anxious — texting repeatedly when partner is quiet
What helps
Reliable reassurance and direct asking
Request F.M. wrote
"When you're busy, a quick 'can't talk, love you' would help me settle."
Partner's row (couples session)
Dismissing under stress — goes quiet and handles it alone
Shared observation
Their stress styles feed each other

What to look for when it comes back

  • The gap between the everyday row and the stress row. That gap is often more useful than either row alone.
  • Self-criticism about being 'anxious' or 'avoidant'. Reframe the strategies as sensible responses to past relationships.
  • Requests that are vague ('be more there'). Help the client make them concrete and doable.
  • In couples work, how each partner's stress strategy triggers the other's — this usually leads naturally into cycle work.

Pairs well with

Clinician FAQ

Can a person's attachment style change?
Research suggests attachment patterns can shift over time, especially through consistent relationships and therapy. Many people describe 'earned security'.
Is this chart a test?
No. It is a psychoeducation tool. Validated measures exist, such as the ECR-R, if you need a formal assessment.
What is fearful avoidant attachment?
It describes wanting closeness while also finding it threatening, so the person may reach out and then retreat. It is often linked to frightening early relationships, so go gently.

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