Attachment · Psychoeducation
Attachment Styles Chart
Four patterns across five dimensions, on one page
A one-page reference chart of the four adult attachment patterns across five dimensions. Use it for psychoeducation; use the reflection lines below it for the client's own read.
Secure
View of others
Others are mostly available; I am worth responding to
Under stress
Reaches out, then settles
In conflict
Stays and repairs
What helps
Consistency
Anxious / preoccupied
View of others
Others may leave; I must work to be kept
Under stress
Escalates to restore contact
In conflict
Pursues, protests, cannot let it rest
What helps
Reliable reassurance and direct asking
Dismissing / avoidant
View of others
Others will disappoint; I rely on myself
Under stress
Deactivates and handles it alone
In conflict
Shuts down, exits, rationalises
What helps
Space with a promise to return
Fearful avoidant
View of others
I need people and people are dangerous
Under stress
Alternates between both strategies
In conflict
Reaches then retreats, sometimes freezes
What helps
Predictability and slow pacing
The row that fits me most of the time
The row I move into under real stress
One thing from the 'what helps' column I could ask for