Attachment · Parenting
Attachment Parenting Worksheet
Repair, not perfection — good enough is about a third of the time
Secure attachment in children is built through repair, not perfection — research puts good-enough attunement at roughly a third of the time. This page looks at your attunement, your ruptures, and your repairs.
Moments my child clearly reaches for me, and what I do
What is hardest for me to stay warm through (tantrums, whining, defiance, tears)
What my own caregivers did in that same moment
My most common rupture — the tone or move I regret
How I repair, and how quickly
What my child needs from me that is different from what I needed
How regulated I am, on average, before I respond
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One change to the hardest hour of the day