Attachment · Fearful Avoidant
Disorganized Attachment Worksheet
When comfort and fear came from the same person
Disorganised attachment forms when the source of comfort was also the source of fear. The result is a nervous system with two contradictory instructions. Pace this page — stop if the material gets too big and return with your therapist.
Signs the two instructions are both firing (freeze, blank, panic then numbness)
What I do when someone gets kind and close
What I do when someone gets distant
What I know about the early years without going into the detail
What tells me I have left the present moment
Two things that bring me back — one body, one external
Who or what feels safest right now (role only, no names)
One boundary that would make relationships feel more predictable