Attachment · Fearful Avoidant
Fearful Avoidant Attachment Worksheet
Come here, go away — both true at once
Fearful avoidant (disorganised) attachment holds both moves at once: come here, go away. Both are true and both are protective. The aim is not to pick a side but to slow the swing down enough to stay present.
What the reaching side of me wants
What the retreating side of me is protecting me from
What usually flips me from one to the other
How fast the flip happens, and what it looks like from outside
Where I first learned that the person I needed was also unsafe or unpredictable
How much the swing is running my relationships right now
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What helps me stay in the room a little longer
One sentence I could say out loud when both sides are active