Attachment · Psychoeducation
Attachment Theory Worksheet
Bowlby and Ainsworth applied to your own life
Bowlby and Ainsworth's core claim: children build an internal working model of whether others are available and whether they are worth responding to. That model runs quietly in adult relationships. This page makes yours explicit.
Proximity seeking
Moving toward a caregiver or partner when distressed.
Safe haven
Being soothed once contact is made.
Secure base
Exploring and taking risks because someone reliable is behind you.
Internal working model
The learned expectation of whether reaching works.
When I am distressed, who do I move toward — and what stops me
Does contact actually soothe me? What gets in the way
Do I have a secure base right now? What would one make possible
My working model in one sentence: 'When I reach for people, they…'
Where that sentence came from
What evidence in my current life contradicts it