About this worksheet
Inner child work treats the younger self as a live part of the present system rather than a metaphor for the past: feelings, expectations and unmet needs from earlier years still fire in adult situations, and they respond to being noticed, named and answered in a way that argument does not reach. Its mechanisms overlap heavily with better-labelled approaches — IFS parts work, schema mode work, imagery rescripting, self-compassion training — and the versions that change anything are concrete rather than sentimental. That is what this worksheet is for. It works one age at a time: the age that shows up most often in difficult moments, where that part registers in the body, what was happening around then in roles and setting, what it was most afraid of, and what it needed and did not get. It then brings the material into the present — which situations today wake that part up, how the client currently treats it when it appears (criticise, ignore, distract, soothe), a 0–10 rating of how much warmth is actually available toward it, and the one sentence it needs to hear from them. The treatment-of-the-part question is usually where the session turns, because most clients hear their own caregivers in their answer. Where no warmth is available, the page directs them to borrow it: what would you say to a child you cared about in that exact situation.
Inner child terms
01
Inner child
The younger emotional self, carrying unmet needs and expectations that still activate in adult life.
Example — A dismissive email producing a wave of feeling that belongs to being eight.
02
Reparenting
Deliberately supplying the noticing, comfort, limits and delight that were missing.
Example — Stopping work to eat because the body needs it, not because it has been earned.
03
Wound theme
The recurring relational injury pattern beneath many separate memories.
Example — Abandonment: leaving relationships first to avoid being left.
When to use it
- Inner child, reparenting and IFS-adjacent work with adults.
- Attachment injuries, childhood emotional neglect and emotionally immature caregivers.
- When self-criticism is severe and self-compassion exercises keep bouncing off.
- Formulation, alongside the wounds map and needs checklist, before reparative practice begins.
- Pace with clinical support where there is developmental trauma — this page opens history rather than closing it.
How to use it
- 1
Find the age
Not the worst year — the age that shows up in ordinary difficult moments. One age only.
- 2
Locate it in the body
Chest, throat, stomach. A somatic anchor keeps the work experiential rather than conceptual.
- 3
Set the context in roles
What was happening around that age, described by role and setting. No names anywhere on the page.
- 4
Name fear and unmet need
What it was most afraid of, and what it needed and did not get. Keep both concrete.
- 5
Check current treatment
How the client treats that part today. Criticism here usually echoes a caregiver, and naming it moves the session.
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Write the one sentence
Short, sayable, and repeatable during the week. Borrow the warmth if none is available yet.
Frequently asked questions
What is inner child work?+
Working with the younger self as an active part of the present system — its feelings, expectations and unmet needs — rather than as a metaphor. In practice it sits close to IFS parts work and schema mode work.
How do you do inner child work?+
Locate before repair: the age, the body location, the fear, the unmet need, then how the client currently treats that part. Reparative work — needs, letters, daily practice — comes after the part has been located.
What are inner child wounds?+
Recurring themes rather than events: abandonment, rejection, neglect, enmeshment and injustice. Each leaves a belief and runs a recognisable adult pattern, which is what the wounds map sets out.
Is inner child work evidence-based?+
The label is not a standalone protocol, but its mechanisms are well supported: experiential and chair work from schema therapy, imagery rescripting, self-compassion training and parts work. Keep claims to the specific techniques used.
What if a client feels nothing toward their younger self?+
Common, especially after emotional neglect. Borrow the warmth: ask what they would say to a child they cared about in that exact situation, and have them say that regardless of whether it is felt yet.
Can I send this worksheet to a client?+
Yes — it is PII-free by design, using roles and settings rather than names. Sign in to TherapistAssist to send it as a secure client link, or print the page.
Worksheet — Inner Child Worksheet — provided by TherapistAssist for clinical use. Not a substitute for assessment or treatment.
