Trauma · Shame
Shame Compass (Nathanson)
Four predictable directions
Shame pulls in four predictable directions (Nathanson's compass): withdraw, attack self, attack other, avoid. Notice which you use most and pick a different response.
Withdraw — when / how it shows up
Attack self — when / how
Attack other — when / how
Avoid (numb / distract) — when / how
My default direction and its cost
One alternative response (name the feeling, tell one safe person, self-compassion break)