Sex Therapy · Communication
Nonmonogamy Agreements Worksheet
Living document — expect to rewrite it
Consensual nonmonogamy works when agreements are explicit, revisited, and revised — not assumed. This is a starting document, not a finished one. Expect to rewrite it.
Structure — name it
- Monogamish / occasional openings
- Swinging / play together only
- Open — outside partners, minimal emotional investment
- Polyamorous — multiple emotional / romantic relationships
- Relationship anarchy — no hierarchy assumed
- Still figuring it out — this is our exploration doc
Practical agreements
Sexual health — testing cadence, barriers with whom, what triggers a re-test
Disclosure — before / after / never; what level of detail
Time — nights out, sleepovers, weekends, travel
Financial — shared money and outside dates
Other-partner contact with each of us
Kids / family / social visibility
The relational agreements
How we handle jealousy when it shows up (and it will)
What a 'pause the openness' request looks like
When we revisit this document
Agreements are living documents
Every open structure that lasts got rewritten. Build in a revisit date so the rewrite is planned, not a crisis.