Sex Therapy · Communication
Erotic Templates & Turn-Ons Inventory
Name the ingredients out loud
Every adult has an internal erotic template — the specific ingredients that reliably move you toward arousal. Most people have never articulated it. Naming it out loud makes it possible to share.
Sensory ingredients
Sights (setting, light, what a partner is wearing / not)
Sounds (words, tone, music, silence)
Touch (pressure, pace, where, sequence)
Smell / taste
Relational ingredients
- Feeling desired vs. desiring
- Playful vs. intense mood
- Predictable ritual vs. novelty
- Being led vs. leading
- Being seen (eye contact) vs. anonymous
- Verbal narration vs. quiet
Fantasy ingredients — themes that recur
Turn-ons are data, not confessions
They are not a moral test and don't require justification. Share them like you'd share how you take your coffee.