Sex Therapy · Communication
Sexual Communication Wheel
Six wedges — one conversation at a time
Talking about sex outside of sex is a skill most couples were never taught. This wheel breaks the conversation into six low-stakes wedges so no single conversation has to carry everything.
Six wedges — pick one per conversation, not all six
1. Appreciation — one specific thing that worked recently
2. Curiosity — one thing you've wondered about them
3. A soft request — 'I'd love more of…'
4. A boundary — 'I've realized I don't want…'
5. A fantasy or fresh idea — shared without pressure to act
6. Repair — one thing from a past experience you'd revisit
Fully clothed, out of the bedroom, on a walk
Sexual conversations land better away from the bed and outside the moment. Save the bedroom for the doing.