Sex Therapy · Communication
Consent Check-in Script
Before, during, and after — rolling consent
Consent is not a one-time gate; it's a rolling conversation. This is a script frame for before, during, and after — small phrases that make check-ins normal instead of a mood-killer.
Before — one of these, out loud
- "What are you up for tonight?"
- "Anything off the menu?"
- "Same as last time, or want something different?"
- "I'm a maybe — can we start slow and I'll tell you?"
A phrase in your own voice
During — permission and check-in
- "More of that?"
- "Slower / firmer / lighter?"
- "Can I…?"
- "How is this landing?"
- A word or gesture that means pause
Our pause word
After — repair and closeness
- "What was your favorite part?"
- "Anything you'd want different next time?"
- "How are you feeling right now?"
A pause is not a rejection
Naming a pause word protects both partners — the person pausing, and the person who never has to guess.