Attachment · Avoidant
Avoidant Attachment Worksheet
Name the exit moves and what they cost
Avoidant attachment is not a lack of feeling — it is feeling routed away from the relationship. The strategy made sense somewhere: needing less was safer than needing and not being met. This page names the exit moves and their cost.
What closeness asks of me that feels like too much
My exit moves (going quiet, getting busy, criticising, finding faults, leaving early)
What I notice in my body just before I pull away
What I tell myself about the other person in that moment
What needing someone meant in my family growing up
How much I want closeness, honestly, on a good day
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The smallest amount of contact I could tolerate staying in instead of leaving
One thing I would want the other person to know about my pull-back