ADHD · ADHD
ADHD Shame Cycle
Miss → shame → avoid → miss more
Miss → shame → avoid → miss more. The ADHD shame cycle isn't a character flaw; it's a predictable loop with intervention points.
The loop
- Miss / forget / underperform
- Internal 'what's wrong with me'
- Avoid the person / task (makes shame worse)
- Cycle deepens
- Underlying: unaddressed ADHD needs, not character
My most common shame trigger
What a self-compassionate response sounds like
Repair action (accountability without collapse)