Sex Therapy · Behavioral
Orgasm Difficulty Exploration
Curiosity beats the finish line
Anorgasmia — lifelong or situational — is usually multi-factor: unfamiliarity with what works for your body, spectatoring, medication (SSRIs especially), pressure to orgasm on someone else's timeline, or scripts inherited about "how" sex is supposed to end.
Which pattern fits
- Lifelong — never with any method
- Situational — solo yes, partnered no
- Situational — with one partner but not another
- Situational — used to, now don't
- Medication-onset (SSRI or other new med)
What you already know about your body
What kind of touch / pressure / speed reliably feels the best
What you've never actually tried
What thoughts arrive close to the edge (and derail it)
An experiment for this week
Solo, low-pressure, no orgasm required — what will you try?
The pressure to orgasm is often the reason there is none
Curiosity about pleasure beats a search for the finish line. Let the finish arrive as a byproduct of paying attention.