Sex Therapy · Behavioral
Sexless Period — 4-Week Reset
Break the gravity of a long dry spell
Long dry spells build their own gravity. The longer sex hasn't happened, the higher the stakes feel, the harder it is to start. This is a four-week structured reset — designed so nothing has to be a big deal, and nothing has to end in intercourse.
Where you're starting
Roughly how long has partnered sex been rare or absent
What the dry spell is not about (rule things out — attraction, love, orientation)
What it might actually be about (resentment, exhaustion, health, unspoken)
Four-week runway (adjust as needed)
Week
Focus
What actually happened
Suggested arc — Week 1: curiosity conversations, no touch expected. Week 2: non-genital affection, twice. Week 3: sensate-focus style touch, no intercourse. Week 4: invitation without expectation.
Rules of the reset
- Intercourse is off the table for the reset — this removes performance pressure
- Either partner can slow down without needing a reason
- Talk about it once a week for 10 minutes, not every day
- Celebrate showing up, not outcomes
Momentum is the goal, not intercourse
You are trying to break the gravity, not restage a peak experience. Small, low-stakes touch done twice this week beats one 'we should really' attempt that flops.