IFS · IFS
Self-Led Parenting Map
Your kid's meltdown finds your inner-child, your critic, your rager
Parenting activates your own parts constantly — the child's meltdown finds your inner-child, your critic, your rager. Map which of YOUR parts get activated by which of your kid's behaviors.
Trigger map
Kid behavior
My part that activates
Its age / origin
What it's protecting
One recent parenting moment I'd want to redo — from Self
The repair conversation I want to have (age-appropriate)
Your kids don't need perfect parents — they need self-led ones
Repair after a not-Self moment teaches more than never rupturing. Your kids are watching how you come back — and learning they can, too.