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IFS for Perfectionism
The perfectionist is love armor — for an exile who learned love was conditional
The perfectionist is a manager — usually one of the oldest, most trusted, and most exhausted. It runs from an exile who learned early that love / safety was conditional on performance.
The perfectionist — how it feels, what it says, when it started
Who it's trying to protect (the exile: young, learned to earn love)
What it's afraid would happen if it dropped its standards
What Self wants to say to the perfectionist
What Self wants to say to the exile
Perfectionism is love armor
It's been trying to keep the exile from being unlovable. When Self offers unconditional presence, the armor doesn't need to be so heavy.