Trauma · History
Emotional Needs Inventory
Rate the six childhood needs
Six emotional needs every child has. Rate how well each was met, then trace the lowest-scoring one into adult life — because the need did not disappear, it just stopped being asked for.
Being noticed — someone tracked my inner world
nonemost
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Being comforted — distress was met, not managed away
nonemost
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Being taken seriously — my feelings counted as information
nonemost
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Being allowed to need — asking was safe
nonemost
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Being enjoyed — someone was glad I existed, not just proud of what I did
nonemost
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Being guided — someone helped me make sense of things
nonemost
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The lowest score
Which need scored lowest
How that shows up in my adult relationships
What I do instead of asking
One relationship where part of this need could be met now (role only)
The smallest ask that would test it