Attachment · Anxious
Anxious Attachment Worksheet
Map the loop from trigger to protest to relief
Anxious attachment is a nervous system that learned connection is real but unreliable. The protest, the checking, the rehearsing — all of it is an attempt to restore contact. This page maps the loop so it can be interrupted earlier.
What triggers the pull most often (slow reply, flat tone, plans changed, silence)
What happens in my body first
The story my mind tells (say it in its actual words)
What I then do — text again, re-read messages, over-explain, withdraw to test
How long the relief lasts once I get reassurance
What the fear underneath is really about
One direct sentence I could use instead of the protest move
One way I can settle myself while I wait for a reply