Recovery · Narcissistic Abuse
Rebuilding Self-Trust Worksheet
Evidence, not reassurance
After a long period of being told they were wrong about reality, clients usually cannot feel their way back to trusting themselves — they have to accumulate evidence. This page builds it in small, checkable pieces.
Where self-trust went
What I used to be sure about that I now check with other people
What I was told about my judgement, repeatedly
Whose voice I hear when I second-guess myself (role only)
Evidence log — small calls, checked afterwards
The call I made
What I predicted
What actually happened
Was my read sound?
Reading it back
How often my read was accurate across these rows
What that suggests about the claim that I cannot trust myself
Signals worth listening to again
- The physical signal I get before I agree to something I don't want
- The thought I have and then immediately dismiss
- The relief I feel when a plan is cancelled
- The tiredness that only shows up around certain people
One decision this week I will make without consulting anyone
Slow is expected
Self-trust returns at the pace of accumulated evidence, not insight. Weekly review of the log matters more than any single entry.