IFS · Depth
Golden Shadow Worksheet
Admiration points inward
Not all shadow is unwanted. The golden shadow holds capacities that were disowned because they were unsafe to have — talent, authority, warmth, wanting — and they are usually visible first as admiration of other people.
Admiration as evidence
Someone I admire (role only)
The quality
Why it seems impossible for me
The smallest version I could do
The block
What I fear would happen if I openly had this quality
Who in my history would have had a problem with it
Evidence that I already have some of it, however small
How much permission I currently give myself for it (0-10)
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Admiration points inward
Sustained admiration usually marks a capacity already present but unclaimed. Ask for the smallest visible version of it this week — claiming happens in doses, not declarations.