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Divorce Announcement to Kids Worksheet
A united script that gives kids what they need
The way children are told about a separation shapes their adjustment for years. This sheet scripts a united announcement that gives kids the information they need without the details that aren't theirs to carry.
What kids need to hear
- This is not your fault
- You are not being asked to choose
- Both parents still love you and will still parent you
- Here is what will change (practical) and what will not
- You can have any feelings about this
- You can ask us anything, anytime
What kids do NOT need
Reasons rooted in the other parent's failings, financial anxiety, adult grief, or blow-by-blow history. That's for adults to carry with other adults.
Our shared script
Draft the opening two sentences we'll say together
Practical changes we'll name
Tell them together, then keep telling them
The announcement is a start, not a one-time event. Kids re-metabolize the news at each developmental stage.