Schema · Schemas
Defectiveness and Shame Schema Worksheet
Graded visibility, not argument
The defectiveness / shame schema says there is something wrong with you that would end the relationship if it were seen. It is maintained by hiding, so the work is graded visibility rather than argument.
The belief in the schema's own words, as bluntly as it actually says it
When it is loudest — the situations that switch it on
What I hide, and how I hide it
Whose voice the shame sounds like (role only)
How true the belief feels when the schema is active
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How true it feels on a good day
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Evidence I discount — things people have said or done that do not fit
What I would say to a client or friend describing exactly this
One thing I could let one safe person see this month
A truer sentence to carry, written by my Healthy Adult