Schema · Schemas
Abandonment Schema Worksheet
Separate the prediction from what happened
The abandonment / instability schema predicts that the people you rely on will leave, withdraw, or become unavailable. It usually fires on ambiguity — a delay, a flat tone, a plan that changes — long before anything has actually happened.
The last time this fired — the trigger, in factual terms
What the schema predicted would happen next
What actually happened
How certain the prediction felt at the time
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How accurate it turned out to be
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What I did while the prediction felt true — texting, testing, withdrawing, ending it first
What that did to the relationship it was trying to protect
The earliest version of this fear I can remember (roles only, no names)
What the younger part of me needed to hear then
What I can say to that part now, in my own voice
One thing I will not do next time the prediction arrives