CBT · Cognitive
Personalization: Pie of Responsibility
Slice the actual causes
Personalization takes weather and calls it your fault. Draw the pie of responsibility and the story rewrites itself.
The thing I'm blaming myself for
List every factor that contributed (people, timing, systems, chance)
Assign a rough % to each — mine is what's left
What that % actually calls for from me (repair, learning, letting go)