DBT assertive-request template — assembles the script
DBT DEAR MAN — the interpersonal-effectiveness skill for asking clearly and saying no. Fill each letter; the tool assembles the script.
Just the facts. What actually happened.
Feelings and opinions about the situation. 'I feel…' not 'You made me…'.
Ask clearly for exactly what you want. Or say no clearly.
Explain the positive outcome if they honor the request.
Stance + delivery + willingness to give a little.
The whole point
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