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Teen Friendship Conflict Worksheet
Under the anger — what am I actually asking for?
Friend fights in adolescence are big because friendship is developmentally central right now. This sheet slows the fight down and figures out what's actually being asked for.
What happened
In behavioral terms — what was said, what was done, in what order
What I felt — under the anger
Hurt, left out, misunderstood, betrayed, afraid I don't matter, embarrassed
What I actually want
- Apology
- A conversation
- Space, then a conversation
- Change in behavior
- End the friendship
- Something else
What I'll say — one draft
Group chats make it worse
Anything hard almost always lands better in person or on a call, not typed. If it has to be typed, it's usually too soon.