Family · Assessment
Family Genogram Worksheet
Three generations on one page
A family genogram is a three-generation map of the emotional system you were born into. Patterns visible on a page are patterns you can interrupt — addiction, cutoff, over-function, loss, triangulation.
Draw three generations
Squares = male, circles = female, double border = you, slash = deceased, horizontal line = marriage, double slash = divorce, dashed line = cutoff, zigzag = conflict, double parallel = close.
— draw grandparents (top), parents (middle), you and siblings (bottom) —
Patterns across generations
Pattern
Which generation(s)
Where it lands on me
Addiction · depression · anxiety · rage · cutoff · over-function · caretaking · early loss · secrets · unspoken grief.
Triangles — who gets pulled in when two are tense?
One multigenerational pattern I want to stop in my generation
You inherited the map, not the destination
Naming a pattern is not blame — it's freedom. What was invisible was inevitable; what's named can be chosen against.