Ego State · Parts Work
Comforting the Younger State
The adult returns to a younger ego state to offer what wasn't available then
Many ego states formed at an age when no comfort came. The adult can return — not to rewrite the past, but to be the steady presence that state has been waiting for.
The younger state
Approximate age
The scene where this state is still located (in a few words)
What that younger you felt
In the body, in the chest, in the gut.
What they needed and didn't get
The adult arrives
Describe yourself walking into the scene. Where do you stand? What do you do with your body, your voice?
What the adult says, in plain words
What the younger state can let the adult take
The vigilance, the responsibility, the weight that was never theirs to carry.
A safer place to bring them now
An inner room, a person, a landscape — somewhere they can rest.
Distress in the younger state at the start (0 → 10)
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Distress at the end
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A small ritual this week to keep the contact open