Recovery · Narcissistic Abuse
Coercive Control Inventory
A pattern of restriction, not a list of incidents
Coercive control is a pattern of restriction rather than a set of incidents, which is why clients so often conclude that nothing serious happened. This inventory looks at the shape of daily life instead.
Areas of life — tick anything that applied
- Money — access, accounting for spending, being kept from earning
- Movement — where I could go, who with, being checked on
- Contact — friendships and family that shrank
- Sleep, food, appearance, or medical care commented on or controlled
- Phone, messages or accounts monitored
- Work or study affected, obstructed, or lost
- Documents, keys, transport or medication held by someone else
- Threats about children, pets, immigration status or reputation
- Rules I learned that were never stated out loud
The rules I learned
What I did automatically to avoid trouble
What I stopped doing altogether
How I would know, from the outside, that this was happening
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How much of that structure is still running in my life (0-10)
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One restriction I could test this week, safely
Clinician note
Screen for current risk before any behavioural experiment here. Coercive control is a criminal offence in several jurisdictions; where contact is ongoing, route to specialist domestic-abuse advocacy alongside therapy.