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Who Am I? — Identity Worksheet

A set of angles on identity for chapters when the old answer no longer fits

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For identity work — after a role ends, a relationship ends, recovery begins, kids leave, a diagnosis lands, or the person the client has been performing no longer fits. Not one answer; a set of angles.

Ten short 'I am ___' statements — write fast, don't edit

Roles I hold (parent, partner, worker, friend, child, patient…)

Which of these feel like me, and which feel like a costume?

What I care about, that I'd care about even if no one was watching

What I'm good at that I take for granted

What I'm still figuring out about myself

A part of me I've been hiding, and why

What the version of me at age 80 would want me to know now

One sentence: who I am, right now, in this chapter

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About this worksheet

For identity work — the chapter after a role ends, a relationship ends, recovery begins, kids leave, a diagnosis lands, or the person the client has been performing no longer fits. Not one answer; a set of angles. Ten fast 'I am ___' statements written without editing (speed bypasses the internal editor), roles the client currently holds and which feel like a costume, values they'd hold even if no one was watching, strengths they take for granted, what they're still figuring out, a part they've been hiding and why, what the 80-year-old version would want them to know, and — after all the angles — one sentence naming who they are in this chapter. Not final. Just this chapter.

When to use it

Life transitions — career change, divorce, retirement, empty nest.
Early recovery when the addicted identity is leaving and the new one isn't set.
Coming out, gender transition, cultural identity work.
Chronic illness diagnosis where identity has to include the new reality.
Post-caregiving, post-parenting, post-military transitions.

How to use it

1
Do the 'I am' statements fast
60 seconds, ten items, no editing. Speed matters — it bypasses the curated self.
2
Sort roles from costumes
Not 'which roles do I like' — which feel like me and which feel like performance. That distinction is the material.
3
Find values that don't need an audience
'What would I still care about if no one was watching?' Strips performance from identity.
4
Meet the hidden part
'A part of me I've been hiding is ___, because ___.' Gentle. This is the field clients most often skip; it's usually the most useful.
5
The chapter sentence
One sentence. Not final. Just this chapter. Clients often return to this sentence months later and rewrite it — that's the point.

Frequently asked questions

Is this a values worksheet?+

Related but distinct. Values worksheets ask what matters. This worksheet asks who I am, which includes values plus roles, strengths, hidden parts, and self-narrative. They pair well.

When shouldn't I use this?+

Not for acute crisis, active psychosis, or dissociative presentations without stabilization. Identity work presupposes enough regulation to hold multiple selves without fragmenting.

Is this the same as parts work?+

It's a lighter-touch cousin. Real IFS parts work meets each part in dialogue; this worksheet surfaces which parts and roles exist so the client and clinician know what to work with next.

Is this worksheet free?+

Yes. Free printable PDF. Sign in to TherapistAssist to send as a secure client link.

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