Sex Therapy · Assessment
Pornography Use Check-in
Function, not frequency
Pornography use isn't automatically a problem, and isn't automatically fine. What matters is function, frequency, and fit — with your body, your values, and any relationship agreements. This is a values-neutral audit designed to surface information, not verdicts.
Current pattern
Roughly how often, and for how long at a stretch
What it usually replaces (partnered sex, solo sex without imagery, boredom, stress, sleep)
Function — what it is doing
- Pleasure and variety
- Stress regulation / sleep
- Escape from difficult feelings
- Numbing / dissociation
- Habitual, doesn't feel chosen
- Substitute for connection you actually want
- Fits my values
- Conflicts with my values or agreements
Effects worth noticing (honestly)
Effect on solo response — arousal, escalation of content, needing more to respond
Effect on partnered sex — attention, presence, expectations of a partner's body
Effect on time, mood, sleep, or work
Agreements (if partnered)
What's currently agreed — spoken or assumed
Any gap between what's agreed and what's happening
Function beats frequency
Twice a week that fits your values and your relationship is fine. Twice a week that you hide, that replaces things you want, that escalates — is data. The number isn't the story.