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Loneliness Worksheet

Name the specific hunger and make the smallest matching reach

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Loneliness is not always about the number of people around — it's often about the kind of contact that's missing. This sheet names the specific hunger (companionship, being known, being useful, being touched) and matches it to a concrete first move this week.

Where I feel the loneliness most (evenings, weekends, mornings, in a crowd)
Intensity of loneliness this week (0–10)
none
1
2
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4
5
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9
10
most
Which hunger is loudest — company, being known, being useful, being touched, shared purpose?
People already in my life this hunger could be met with
Contexts or communities where this hunger tends to be met
What has stopped me from reaching (shame, fear of rejection, energy, logistics)
The smallest reach this week — one message, one invitation, one showing up
A daily micro-connection I can add (barista, neighbor, walk, class, group chat)
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About this worksheet

Loneliness responds poorly to advice like 'meet more people' because it's usually not about numbers. It's about the type of contact that's missing — and the type varies. Companionship-hunger (someone to do things with) isn't the same as being-known-hunger (someone who has the whole story), which isn't the same as being-useful-hunger, being-touched-hunger, or shared-purpose-hunger. Named separately, each hunger has a different first move. This worksheet identifies which one is loudest, maps who and where that specific hunger might already be met, names what's stopped the client from reaching (shame, fear of rejection, energy, logistics), and lands on the smallest reach for the week — one message, one invitation, one showing up. Adds a daily micro-connection practice for the background load.

When to use it

  • Loneliness after a move, breakup, retirement, or bereavement.
  • Remote workers and clients whose daily contact is transactional.
  • Single clients, empty-nest parents, clients emerging from a controlling relationship.
  • Chronic illness or disability limiting spontaneous social access.

How to use it

  1. 1
    Name the specific hunger

    Which one is loudest this week? The generic 'I'm lonely' doesn't point to a first move; the specific hunger does.

  2. 2
    Start with people already in the client's life

    New-people advice bypasses the underused contacts already there. Usually there are two or three.

  3. 3
    Name what's stopped the reach

    Shame, fear of rejection, energy, logistics — different blocks need different plans. Skipping this step is why the reach doesn't happen.

  4. 4
    Smallest reach, this week

    One message. Small enough that the block doesn't get to veto it.

Frequently asked questions

Isn't loneliness a symptom, not the target?+

It can be — depression, social anxiety, and complex trauma all produce loneliness. Treat both: the underlying condition, and the specific missing-contact pattern this sheet targets.

What about clients whose loneliness is chronic and situational (disability, caregiving)?+

Micro-connections and shared-purpose communities matter more here than one-to-one reaches. The sheet's final field is designed for exactly this.

How is this different from a social anxiety worksheet?+

Social anxiety worksheets target the fear of contact. This one targets what specifically is missing when contact exists but isn't landing. They pair well.

Is this worksheet free?+

Yes. Free printable PDF. Sign in to TherapistAssist to send as a secure client link.

Worksheet — Loneliness Worksheet — provided by TherapistAssist for clinical use. Not a substitute for assessment or treatment.