Family · Repair
Cutoff & Estrangement Worksheet
Full cutoff, limited contact, or reconnection — clearly
Cutoff often feels like the only option — and sometimes it is the right one, at least for a season. This sheet helps you think clearly about whether, when, and how any contact happens, without collapsing your own safety.
Why I chose distance
What was happening; what I needed
What has changed (in them, in me, in circumstances)
The three possible postures
1) Full cutoff continues. 2) Limited contact on my terms. 3) Fuller reconnection with clear agreements. Any is legitimate.
The posture I'm choosing right now — and my minimum non-negotiables if any contact resumes
Repair is not required
Reconnection is one option, not the goal. A safe distance held with clarity is often the actual healing.