Sex Therapy · Identity
Gender-Affirming Sexuality Map
Language, sensation, and communication after transition
Transition — social, medical, or both — changes the sexual body and the erotic self, often in ways nobody prepared you for. Sensation shifts, arousal reroutes, language for your own body changes, and partners have to learn a new map. This is a tool for translating between your body as it is now and the sex you want.
Language for your body
Words for your parts that fit — clinical, neutral, playful, whatever works
Words you don't want a partner to use, even affectionately
Sensation map (as it is now)
Areas that feel affirming to have touched
Areas that are neutral
Areas that are off-limits or dysphoria-triggering right now
What arousal and orgasm are like now
What's shifted — how it builds, where it lives, how long, what tips it over
Communicating this to a partner
What you want them to know before, during, and after
A signal for 'this is landing wrong, adjust' that isn't loaded
The map is allowed to keep updating
Medical transition timelines aren't the only reason the map changes. Comfort, confidence, and self-knowledge shift it too. Redo this sheet at intervals — it's a living document.